My interest in intimacy, sexuality, and romantic relationships began in high school. Specifically, TV shows like “Loveline” and “Talk Sex with Sue” made me aware of the absence of education about issues related to intimacy, sexuailty, sexual health, sexual identity, and romantic relationships.

Openly talking about sex continues to be taboo, which can be detrimental, particularly in terms of health.  Due to TV programs that exposed me to this topic, I became comfortable talking about sex and sexuality; however, it did not occur to me that I could pursue a career in mental health that addressed those particular concerns.  Ironically, I’m shy, so being on TV was not appealing.  Also, I didn’t know anyone who had a similar career.  

I’ve learned a lot since then, particularly about the impact of socialization.  The socialization process begins early, even before you are born.  It can be difficult to figure out who you are (i.e., your identity); especially if your identity is not apart of the majority. I believe that you are the expert on you and your relationships with other people.  Living a life that makes you happy is critical.

Life is full of difficult and painful choices.  Sometimes we make choices that result in negative consequences which impact our daily lives and the relationships we have with other people.  My job is to aid and motivate you and your partner(s) to find concrete approaches to promote mental, emotional, and personal growth.  Not to determine who you are, who you “should” be, or what your romantic relationships “should” look like. You direct what your journey in life will look like.  Redefining Relationships, Acceptance, Empowerment, & Love is about what direction you want to go in this journey call life.